pooh + keane = *sniff *

Last night I was in the throes of about five different projects at once when this came on TV. It caught my attention because I love, love, love the song "Somewhere Only We Know" by Keane... but it was the music and the images that made me stop everything I was doing.

As crazy as it may seem, by the end I had full-on goosebumps and a honey pot in my throat! Listening to that song while watching my old friends -- friends I had all but forgotten as an adult, but cherished dearly as a child -- march over that bridge together brought tears to my eyes. In less than two minutes I went from a 41-year-old mom sorting bills to a four-year-old mophead sitting in front of her Fisher-Price record player, listening to Pooh's adventures while following along in her tattered-but-loved storybook.

"Oh simple thing... where have you gone?"

Back to the Hundred Acre Wood... where life is indeed simple, and sweet, and as wonderful as I remembered.


manners? yes, please.

So I found this list called 25 Manners Kids Should Know, and thought I would pass it along... not as a hint -- I repeat, not as a hint -- to any of my peeps, but merely as an item of interest. I came across it over the lovely, long holiday weekend...during one of the many, many hours I sat on my patio with a cold drink, doing next to nothing.

I can feel some waves of jealousy crashing in -- particularly from those who had 17 places to get their families to over the course of three days. You're all, "Yeah, so, how the hell did you swing that one, sister?" How, you ask, did I score a grundle of leisure time during one of the least leisurely weekends of the entire year? I'll tell you how:

  1. Because I made a deliberate decision to ignore the laundry
  2. Because it didn't occur to us to make holiday plans with family and/or friends, mostly because:
  3. Tyler is on a camping trip with his dad for a week and I had nobody to worry about, boss around or disappoint with my stupid Motherly Rules & Reasoning -- which resulted in a ridiculous, almost shameful, amount of free time
Quite frankly, that free time -- specifically, the copious amount I had in my son's absence, and what I did or did not do with it -- was surprising, unsettling... and may need to be explored in a future post. But in my defense, I did not say "absolutely" nothing. I said "next to" nothing because, HELLO, the list!

Speaking of the list... you'll find it below. The good news is my own kid has about half of these down pat. The bad news is my own kid has about half of these down pat.

Read 'em and weep -- or read 'em and cheer, and then march right over and give your Miss or Mr. Manners a big hug and kiss for being so polite and lovely!

I mean, please march right over... and thank you.


#1: When asking for something, say "Please."

#2: When receiving something, say "Thank you."

#3: Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.

#4: If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.

#5: When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.

#6: The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.

#7: Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.

#8: When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.

#9: When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.

#10: Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering.

#11: When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.

#12: Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.

#13: Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.

#14: Don't call people mean names.

#15: Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.

#16: Even if a play or an assembly {OR CHURCH} is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best… and you may actually learn something.

#17: If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."

#18: Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.

#19: As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.

#20: If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- again, you may learn something new.

#21: When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.

#22: When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!

#23: Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.

#24: Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.

#25: Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.